I never even tried any drugs. I consciously chose to avoid sex in high school. Yes, I tried it back then, but realized immediately that it
wasn’t worth getting pregnant and dropping out of school. In college, I tried again. Same conclusion. I worked every night that I
didn’t have school and some that I did. I saved money and paid bills for my mother. I spent every Saturday serving chicken and chasing down teenagers, trying to convince them that work ethic is a good thing. I’d stay up late and get up early to study or work on a paper. My sisters laughed at me because I’d stay home and study instead of going out and learning how to drink alcohol like a real Ole Miss student. I did try that a few times, too. But again, realized it
wasn’t worth it. I worked my tail off to buy a vehicle dependable enough to drive to school. Many, many times I had to choose between going to work in order to make enough money for the gas to get to school, or staying home and writing a paper that was due. Five years of this. For what? Here’s what: I earned a full scholarship for a Master’s. But what did I get from the people I’d spent my life trying to make happy when I got this scholarship? I got a puzzled, “How can you go back to school when you know John wants a baby?” What?!? I just spent five years and $50, 000 becoming the first person in my family to earn a Bachelor’s degree, and this is what they want me to do? Have a baby? The very thing I avoided!
Well, John got his baby. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love my son with all my heart. If you take him out of my life, I don’t want to be in it anymore. But I could’
ve used that scholarship, started a career, and then had him.
Couldn’t I? Never mind now. Birth Control
doesn’t work, and he’s here. I spend my days wiping his nose, feeding him, changing his diaper, picking up things he’s thrown down, searching for things he’s lost, taking him off the table when he climbs on it, cleaning his messes…the list goes on.
Somewhere in the middle off all this, I lay out something for dinner and try to pick healthy, filling sides. Bouncing back and forth from the kitchen to the living room, I cook the dinner and keep an eye on
JJ, making sure he
doesn’t break any bones. (He climbs out of the play-pin.) When it is all done, I’m starved because I only had a slim-fast shake for lunch four hours ago. (I still have nearly 30 pounds of “baby” weight to stay conscious of.) I wait for John to come home so we can eat like the family he wanted. Finally, he’s home. I start to fix plates, and he says, “I’m not hungry. You go ahead and eat. I’ll get something later.”
Yes, I’m that horrible word women get called when we have something to say!!! You know what it is.
What am I not? Straight and Christian. Don't assume I am!